Are you stubborn as a grass stain or as easy going as a light breeze on a warm day? Tell us about the ways in which you’re stubborn — which issues make you dig your heels in and refuse to budge?
Daily Prompt: Never Surrender by Krista on March 11, 2014
I can be very stubborn and argumentative. I like to think that it is my Evil Villain Persona, the obnoxious part of me that doesn’t like to be wrong. I have gotten better at taming this Masked Phantasm but every now and again he comes out.
In my past, I would often argue long and hard with people about the silliest of things. Like what actor was in which show, or what someone said. Well the funny thing about memory, is it isn’t exact. Things we think we remembered correctly and fight tooth and nail over are in fact wrong. That is very much the case for me. The things I would argue the hardest about is when I would be the most wrong. These were also things that were the silliest and most inconsequential but could definitely be verified (much to my shock of being wrong).
I really try to make sure that I now state that I “think” this is what right and stay away from definitive answers. Part of it is, I don’t want to be wrong but the other part is, I don’t want to end up spending energy on something silly where I am likely wrong anyway. I’ve found that people like it more when you agree with them than trying to argue how “right” you are. If I am wrong, I definitely try to admit to it and say the words, “I was wrong.” People really like to hear those words and honestly if you were wrong the cost of saying that is nothing and will end with positive trust.
While I have gotten better, the Masked Mule will still come out and kick around a bit. I am working on making sure though that this Masked Mule is more tame and willing to move when asked.
An amusing anecdote that minimally involves me but illustrates the point of silly arguments was from my gaming days. It was Dungeons and Dragons night, and for a gamer that is almost something sacred. You don’t mess with Game Night and you don’t come late. Luckily we had our group there around our table (which had a name but sadly I forgot it). The one thing about D&D games is there are a lot of tangent conversations that start up for random reasons. One such tangent had started that night between two other players and it involved Star Wars. Two of the players starting arguing vehemently over the accuracy of Storm Trooper rifles. The rest of us looked on with dismay as the two players went back and forth. It went on and on; Finally I exploded. I shouted, “It’s fiction! It’s not real! They are as accurate as they need to be! Now let’s get back to gaming!” And that was that, the game resumed. You don’t mess with Game Night.
Featured Image by Niels Elgaard Larsen Mules on Linos, Gr from Wikimedia Commons